Colossians 3:1-9, NRSV
So if you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth, 3 for you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ who is your[a] life is revealed, then you also will be revealed with him in glory.
5 Put to death, therefore, whatever in you is earthly: fornication, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed (which is idolatry). 6 On account of these the wrath of God is coming on those who are disobedient.[b] 7 These are the ways you also once followed, when you were living that life.[c] 8 But now you must get rid of all such things—anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive[d]language from your mouth. 9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have stripped off the old self with its practices 10 and have clothed yourselves with the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator. 11 In that renewal[e] there is no longer Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and free; but Christ is all and in all!
“Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have stripped off the old self and all of its practices.”
Been thinking about this one a lot lately. Stefanie and I are planting a church in the Muncie, IN area. Part of working out what this new congregation might look like is developing a list of core values (or something). I’ve gotta say, we’ve come to the place in our lives of ministry that we are pretty solidly set on “truth telling” as core value #2. “Being Christian” (whatever that means) is core value #1. But #2 is “Being Honest.”
We intend to tell the truth:
- to each other
- about each other
- about God
- to God
- to ourselves.
A good friend of mine said to me last week, “a good way to avoid answers you don’t want to hear is to avoid asking the question.” He’s right… and he wasn’t suggesting that as a healthy course of action… but such practices reek of dishonesty. It seems the way of discipleship is paved with honesty. Confession… grace… love… healthy relationships with God and people… healthy conflict resolution… all of those things can’t really happen the way they’re intended without honesty being in the picture in a big way.
I think a lot of good folks are living-out lies. I think maybe because the truth sometimes hurts. Sometimes acknowledging the truth will prompt changes we aren’t comfortable with or think we’re ready for. So it’s easier to avoid or bury the truth, give in to fear, and avoid the necessary, perhaps painful change.
But it’s better, especially as leaders, to face a painful truth head-on than avoid it and continue living a collective untruth.